Relationships

Relationshi

While, as usual, I had a lot to blurb about for this installment, I decided relationships would be the most fitting.

Non platonic relationships...I remember so vividly heartbreak being 15 plus days with a box of tissues, chocolate, episodes of Sex and the City (Mr Big always drove me up the wall. FYI), wine and a girls night with men bashing in order. I could swear that, that and more was going to happen if ever I broke up with my current ex. We were forever! You can only imagine my shock when none of that happened. I sat quietly in my room. Pondering...  What? Where's the heart break sound? The slow motion run after him on the beach as the sun sets? Where is the empty soul feeling? Oh dear, I think there's something wrong with this script!

Platonic relationships...In my childhood days, I always thought I would have one best friend for the rest of my life and nobody else would be my bestie or anything close. We would get married to two boys (who were also best friends) at the same time and same venue. Ladies and gentlemen,  I was all wrong and somewhat delusional! Though I still have my bestie, I recently adopted a bunch of friends.  We kinda "found" each other. Right on time I'd say. Sitting at dinner one night we raised our wine glasses proudly to being single and happiness and, and, and... And we realised life has put us in the same spot at the same time. Not just physically, duh! But entirely. Somebody exclaimed the words, "We have another thing in common!" With a blood drained look on my face, I do remember replying with the words, "How awesome!" but what I thought was; Deeeeep! Where was my one and only bestie? How come she is not experiencing what I am? How are we not in the same spot? No man! This script is really wrong!

 All of this got me thinking... (all those Facebook quotes I've liked over the years were not in vain. They make perfect sense now!)

Some people are in your life for a reason and others just a season: 

I can't help but think that life has a reason for bringing people together or pulling them apart. This makes me think back on all the heart break I've experienced and all the friendships I've let go off. Those situations are absolutely how they were supposed to be.

Everything happens for a reason:

I can't help but be grateful for life and its quirks. I can't help but accept the fact that I may well have 'loved and lost' but instead of mopping around, bask in the understanding that life will go on and it will place itself not quite how or where I planned or imagined it but exactly how it is supposed to be. 

Let go:

Hoarding and holding on to people and situations that don't serve me anymore is useless. And time wasting. And toxic! Pursuing happiness and growing very well means letting go of a heavy past and trusting that the future will avail itself beautifully. 

Finally, my mantra, 

I am my first and longest commitment:

I spent 27 years of my life not realising nor focusing on this. Relationships come and go but I can't leave myself. Why haven't I put as much work into myself as I have into everyone and everything else? 

Shooo! #MindBlown

On using my brain cells, I can say for one, I have a fully functional brain. (Yay me!) I can also say, I have learnt a lot by simply putting things into PERSPECTIVE! Though the lense in the magnifying glass is not clear but still yet not so blurry either, I'll take it.

Remember, life is one up and down slippy, slidey, slopey, windy kinda thing. To live fully you just have to be ready to go through the motions.