Friendzoner (n) a person who puts you in the friendzone

Friendzonee (n) a person who has been put in the friendzone by the friendzoner

Friendzoned (v) a zone in life that nobody leaves

We meet again...

Friendzone... friendzone, friendzone! is the mysterious and mystical place where all crushes go to die!!!! It doesn't matter how many centuries you have been hanging out there, NOBODY LEAVES FRIENDZONE!

 I would like to lament on this subject for a little bit as this is a phase in life we have ALL been through. Or rather stuck at. (Unless you are Beyonce... oh wait... NO. See "Best thing I never had" for friendzone reference. Even you, Beyonce!) 

The dreaded friendzone, la friendzone, il friendzono. 

As long as you are a living, breathing, talking, not talking, walking, not walking,  winking, not winking, farting human being you have been put in this box at least once- sadly, this box is made of corrugated iron! It's sad and pathetic in there innit?

I JOKE! Let me tell you that you are bigger than that box. Do not despair. 

As a human, i find it is so easy to be absorbed by this fantasy world. We often get caught up in what could be if we just did this and that. But the hard and humble truth is if he only saw you as a friend in the beginning, there is slim to none chances he sees you as anything romantic now. Unless of course you are in some bombastic Hollywood production. #CutEdit

To eliminate confusion, friends should be honest with each other. Yes, it will be awkies in the beginning but true friendship stands the test of awkward. 10 years from now you might both be telling your kids this same friendzone story. With that said, friendzone is still pretty hilarious. You have got to admit!

People take rejection in so many different ways. Some people soar after being rejected and unfortunately some people aren't as successful in their bid to flap their wings. Rejection makes us feel horrible and ridiculous but on the flip side it builds character. If you have warm blood in your veins, you have felt both those feelings.

Dear friendzonee, you are not the first nor will you ever be the last to feel rejection. Dust yourself off and try again (somewhere else). Life is too precious,  life is too long, life is too awesome! If the maxim "There is someone out there for everyone" is true, you are someone and you will find your Princess Charms and/or Prince Charming.

As my blog title suggests, I have been on a Journey this past year. A journey of self growth, self value and self love. I still have a long way to go and much to learn but I know strength comes from within. Love comes within. Peace comes from within. Joy comes from within. Not from anybody but myself.  Because these are things I value, nobody can devalue me. Be it a teacher,  a friend, an enemy,  a family member, a friendzoner inter alia. That confidence, I single handedly build and work on everyday, you, sir/ madam are not entitled to break that or me. 

At the end of the day,  the way I see this friendzone thing is; allow yourself to be friendzoned at least once in your life. One day, you will appreciate the fact that somebody else has the ability to love you, flaws and all, bent eye and smelly belly button. Making that once friendzoner seem not so important afterall.

Remember, life is a garden you are a shovel so dig it!